The commencement of an ‘entire’ decade is a significant marker in terms of life events, personal values and intrinsic changes to an individual. As I’m rapidly approaching my 30th birthday (October 28th) I’m currently sitting down in my new apartment in Incheon, South Korea – after a long jog with the AC blasted on full – pondering how I’ve changed as an individual (the most) over the past 10 years.
A lot has happened.
I’ve graduated from the University of Alberta, travelled to 30 countries & taught English overseas in South Korea for three years. I’ve spent more of my 20’s in areas outside of Canada and met ‘incredible people’ from all over the world doing crazy, amazing & unfathomable things (in a positive way) with their lives. I’m in a much better place both mentally and physically at the age of 30 (2 months away) than I was at 20; however, with all the positive change in my life, nothing I’ve mentioned above really signifies what ‘I feel’ is the ‘biggest’ change in my life. If I had to boil it all down to just one particular point it would be this:
The ability to say…
Let me explain a little further…
Fuck you to man
Fuck you to the plan
Fuck you to the plate full of spam
Fuck you to the brat
Fuck you to the cat – even the one wearing ‘the hat’ 😛
Fuck you to the jerk
Fuck you to the obnoxious clerk
* ‘Fuck you’ not meaning actually necessarily saying ‘that’ – or any other profanity – but instead, expecting a certain level of behaviour & respect from others in terms of day to day interactions *
Living a self directed life, in my opinion, is one in which you’re ‘okay’ with not fitting in, saying ‘no’ sometimes & not caring one iota if you’re keeping up with the Joneses. It’s a life where you teach others with your posture and words what is & isn’t acceptable in terms of how one behaves towards you. It’s about saying ‘fuck you’ every once in a while and not feeling guilty about it afterwards. It’s what my life is more about ‘now’ than it was ten years ago when I was a lot more shy, less confident and unsure about where I was going at that particular point in time. I’m now more excited about my life and plans than I’ve ever been at any point in my life, feeling big things are around just about every corner.
I’m wondering what has been the biggest change for you in the past 10 years? I’d love if you shared some thoughts in the comments below.