Growing Up and Evolving As A Backpacker As I’m Getting Older

Starting my indefinite backpacking adventure revisiting Malaysia seemed liked a flawless fit at the time. After spending the night sleeping at Kuala Lumpur International Airport, much to the chagrin of my girlfriend Audrey Bergner, was the first glimpse I had into reality that I am now backpacking as a thirty something and not a wide-eyed twenty year old.

The idea that we’d start off our trip pinching pennies by sleeping overnight at the airport – while catching the first bus to Malacca – seemed like an infallible plan straight out of my frugal backpacker playbook; however, as I laid down on the cold petrous marble floor, I couldn’t help but notice the aches penetrating throughout my back and the thoughts slowly creeping into my head: “What on earth are you doing sleeping on the floor.”

How Travel Preferences Change As You Get Older

There was a time – not long ago – that I would have not had even a second thought about sleeping overnight at an airport that offered less than stellar reclining options.

The second realization that things were a little different this time around came when I checked into one of my favorite guest houses in all of SE Asia – Sama Sama located in the heart of Chinatown in downtown Malacca.

This unique guest house is famed for its lush leafy plants, open air spaces, creaky staircases and crumbling colonial charms and quirks.

With docile cats that stretch themselves across the length of the floor, mosquito nets and fan only rooms this guest house oozes character in ways many other establishments could only dream of; however, as I laid down in bed with beads of sweet trickling down my forehead and my computer turned on without any wifi connection, I internally murmured: “How am I going to get any work done? Is it really ‘okay’ that I’m sweating profusely even though I’m not really moving.”

A guest house I once called home for nearly a fortnight was now a place that didn’t meet my current level of expectations.

As I checked out of my room the following morning, I couldn’t help but feel a sense of sadness as I stepped over the ‘three legged cat’ that had been lying in the exact same spot back in 2008.

The realization that I’m getting older and require a different level of comfort now that I’m working as I travel (as opposed to just backpacking) really sunk in with clarity at that exact moment.

I Now Require More Comfort On The Road

To be perfectly honest, it’s sad when a place you once loved – even cherished – no longer fits the bill.

The reality is that when you travel, much like any other experience in your life, needs change as do people.

The days of being a carefree backpacker looking for ways to shave down my expenses at every corner and extend my journey as long as possible are an illusion that no longer corresponds with my lifestyle.

I have to admit that at times I want to roll back the clock and transform myself into the young backpacker that once absorbed every experience like a sponge; but that would simply be fighting reality.

In my experience when you do fight reality it brings upon great doses of anxiety and stress. Instead of lamenting over the fact Sama Sama Guest House is no longer the perfect fit, I’m instead going to look at it as a sort of graduation; moving from one point to another in the succession of events that is called my life.

I’ll always have fond memories of my time at Sama Sama as a young backpacker, but now it’s time for me to make new memories in new places as my journey continues.

It’s the same-same but different – and I’m okay with that 🙂

How We Require More Comfort On The Road As We Age

Changes in Travel Priorities

As we age, our travel preferences evolve. The adventurous, rugged experiences that defined youth often give way to a desire for comfort and ease. While younger travelers might happily stay in hostels or take overnight buses, older travelers tend to seek out accommodations that offer more comfort, luxury, and convenience. Whether it’s choosing a cozy bed-and-breakfast or a well-reviewed hotel, priorities shift from high-energy exploration to a more relaxed travel pace, reflecting the need for a restful and rejuvenating journey.

• Comfort Over Adventure: In youth, the thrill of adventure often outweighs the need for comfort. Backpacking through remote areas, staying in budget accommodations, and hopping between locations might once have been exciting. However, as we grow older, we begin to value different aspects of travel. A quiet hotel with a beautiful view, a carefully planned itinerary, and easy access to amenities like Wi-Fi, transportation, and dining options become more important. Comfort, in this case, doesn’t just mean physical relaxation—it also includes peace of mind, knowing that the trip will be smooth and enjoyable.

Health and Physical Needs

One of the most significant reasons for this shift in travel priorities is the changing physical needs that come with age. Long-haul flights, strenuous activities, and busy schedules can take a greater toll on our bodies. Older travelers are more likely to seek out direct flights instead of cheaper connecting ones, book business class or premium economy for extra comfort, and opt for accommodations that offer ergonomic seating, supportive beds, and amenities that cater to specific needs.

• Physical Wellness: With age comes the need for more supportive environments. Hotels with accessible amenities, rooms equipped with walk-in showers, and locations that reduce the strain of travel (such as proximity to attractions) become crucial. Some may seek out wellness-focused accommodations, including resorts or retreats offering yoga, spa treatments, or fitness programs designed to maintain physical well-being while on the road.

Increased Focus on Convenience

Convenience becomes another key factor in how older travelers plan their trips. While younger travelers may delight in navigating local transportation or planning an independent itinerary, mature travelers often prefer smoother, pre-arranged plans. This could mean booking guided tours, staying in accommodations closer to city centers or attractions, and opting for private transportation.

• Ease of Travel: The emphasis on ease of travel leads older travelers to destinations with reliable healthcare, good infrastructure, and less physically demanding activities. Countries with excellent medical facilities, clear communication in English or the traveler’s native language, and well-maintained roads for smoother travel may rank higher on the list of destinations. This preference doesn’t eliminate the possibility of adventure but ensures that it can be enjoyed without unnecessary stress.

Luxury and Pampering

As we grow older, the desire for more indulgent, relaxing travel experiences increases. While luxury might have once been a splurge, many older travelers now seek it out as an integral part of the trip. Wellness retreats, luxury cruises, five-star hotels, and private guided tours offer the opportunity to blend exploration with rest and rejuvenation.

• Self-Care While Traveling: Luxury doesn’t have to mean high cost—it can also mean added comfort. Whether it’s a boutique hotel with personalized service, a scenic lunch at a quiet restaurant, or booking a tour at a relaxed pace, older travelers prioritize self-care during their journeys. Many choose to combine travel with wellness activities, such as spa treatments, thermal baths, or yoga classes, ensuring that they return from their vacation feeling refreshed.

Balancing Adventure with Relaxation

It’s important to note that comfort doesn’t mean giving up on adventure. Many older travelers still crave exploration but balance it with moments of rest. Instead of trekking through mountains, they might opt for a scenic train ride through the countryside. Instead of staying in a hostel with young backpackers, they might choose a quiet Airbnb in a peaceful neighborhood.

• Curated Experiences: This balance allows for meaningful travel experiences without the exhaustion that can come with jam-packed itineraries. Travelers might book excursions that explore nature, history, or culture in a more relaxed manner, such as guided tours through a national park, museum visits with knowledgeable docents, or sunset cruises along iconic rivers.

Sweet Spot Between Price and Experience

Balancing Budget and Quality

Traveling on a budget doesn’t mean you have to compromise on the quality of your experience. Finding that perfect balance between price and value is all about smart planning and knowing where to splurge and where to save. The goal is to maximize your experience without blowing your budget.

• Strategic Splurging: Sometimes, spending a bit more on certain aspects of your trip, like accommodation or activities, can dramatically enhance your overall experience. Think of it as investing in memories. For instance, staying in a central location may be more expensive but can save you time and transportation costs, allowing you to explore more and make the most of your stay.

Timing is Everything

One of the key ways to find that sweet spot is by traveling during the shoulder season. This is the period just before or after peak travel season when the weather is still favorable, but prices drop significantly. Not only will you save on flights and hotels, but you’ll also avoid the overwhelming crowds.

• Shoulder Season Perks: You get to experience popular destinations with fewer tourists, better deals, and more authentic interactions with locals. The weather is usually still good, and the overall experience can feel more relaxed.

Save on Accommodations, Splurge on Experiences

Accommodations are often one of the biggest travel expenses, but they don’t have to break the bank. Look for affordable yet highly rated options like boutique hotels, guesthouses, or even Airbnb. These can offer personalized service and local charm without the high price tag of luxury hotels.

• Focus on Experiences: Instead of spending heavily on where you sleep, invest in unique experiences like guided tours, local cooking classes, or day trips to off-the-beaten-path locations. These are the things you’ll remember long after your trip ends.

Smart Travel Hacks

• Booking in Advance: Flights and accommodations booked early are often cheaper, and you get more choices in terms of quality.
• Use Points and Rewards: Frequent travelers can make the most of loyalty programs or credit card rewards for free or discounted stays and flights.
• Local Dining: Eat where the locals do. Street food and small local restaurants offer delicious, authentic meals at a fraction of the cost of touristy spots.